We have just marked Anti-bullying Week in school with all students. In the course of the week students have attended an assembly exploring what we mean when we use the term bullying, how it might affect someone, how students might help someone who suggests that they are being bullied and why as a Catholic school this behaviour is inappropriate and goes against the expectations we have of our students and that of our ethos.

We know that as parents/carers this is often a subject that you ask for further advice on regarding warning signs, how best to help and who best to approach.

With this in mind please find below some advice offered to parents/carers nationwide that you may find of use and support.

As always, should you be worried about anything to do with your child’s welfare please do not hesitate to contact us at school at your earliest convenience and we will endeavour to do all we can to support and assist you in reaching a harmonious conclusion.

Top anti-bullying tips for parents and carers

If your child is being bullied or you think they might be, here are some tips on how to walk to them and prevent further bullying.

  • If your child is being bullied, don't panic. Your key role is listening, calming and providing reassurance that the situation can get better when action is taken.
  • Listen and reassure them that coming to you was the right thing to do. Try and establish the facts. It can be helpful to keep a diary of events to share with the school or college.
  • Assure them that the bullying is not their fault and that they have family that will support them. Reassure them that you will not take any action without discussing it with them first.
  • Don't encourage retaliation to bullying - such as violent actions. It's important for children to avoid hitting or punching an abusive peer. Reacting that way has negative and unpredictable results- they may be hurt even further, and find that they are labelled as the problem. Rather suggest that they walk away and seek help.
  • Find out what your child wants to happen next. Help to identify the choices open to them; the potential next steps to take; and the skills they may have to help solve the problems.
  • Encourage your child to get involved in activities that build their confidence and esteem, and help them to form friendships outside of school (or wherever the bullying is taking place).

Get some advice

There are many organisations that can give you some advice. Contact them if you are worried about bullying and want to talk to someone.

Anti-bullying Alliance Parents and Carers Resources